How Blogging Helped Me Improve Myself

September 19, 2011

I’ve spent several years of my life keeping my mouth shut, because I was scared of being wrong. Of course, I was right most of the times but I couldn’t speak my mind because I was never sure about my ideas.

When I grew up, I learned to speak my mind in brief, sharp comments. This made me popular between my friends, I was the “she never talks but beware when she does” one. I liked it that way, so I started to become more confident.

What helped me become more confident?

  1. “Blah blah blah people” : Actually, having around people that talked way too much without really saying anything helped a lot! I learned from my mistakes, and I learned from their mistakes.
  2. The internet: It played a great role in this evolution; it taught me how to speak my mind, when to and why. I learned when it was worth it and when it was better to leave things and don’t worrying about them.
  3. Blogging: here comes the blogging, and it saved my life! Being a blogger is helpful from every angle you look at it. It helps you with shyness, with self-confidence and with your writing style. And of course, if you write better you’ll speak better! For me, it also helped with laziness: to write interesting stuff you need to constantly look for infos, to go out, to watch stuff, to talk to people.

I feel there’s still a lot for me to learn, though! I still feel uneasy when I’m in front of people more experienced than me, or people that I think could judge me someway.

I’m still not completely comfortable in showing myself on the internet, or sometimes even on the streets (this happens every other day).

What do you feel is stopping you from completely expressing yourself in front of other people?

For me, I think it’s failure. If that’s your problem,too, I’d like to share a MANTRA:


What are your thoughts about this topic? It would be really helpful talking each other about it!

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we are very much alike (regarding this topic at least). :) thank you again for remembering me when i slipped out of the blogosphere. i didn’t believe then that i was really going to come back and even start making some more ambitious plans with blogging (after i finish this year at the university, hehe). feedback (connection with other fellow bloggers) gives me new motivation every day. i’ve changed a lot in the last 6 months and blogging is probably playing a part in this transformation. not to mention how much my English improved since i’ve been writing comments and blog posts. not only writing, i even speak more fluently now. still much to improve but it gives me confidence. :)


when I was young I was quite shy but I soon became another person when I moved to London when I turned twenty…the city is so open minded and is the best place in the world to gain confidence. people don’t judge you on the appearance and on top of it you come across so many different cultures and ideas that it’s easy to feel confident and at your best!

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I really like this post because I agree that blogging has helped me come into myself and get over the fear of expressing my thoughts. I think besides fear of failure (whatever that is) is fear of rejection. There’s no failure really unless you don’t do what you wanted to do. If you have the courage to take the leap then you’ve already succeeded.

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I totally agree with you. I think what stopping me is being scared of failing.I know that blogging will help tremendously with my confidence but sometimes I let my fear overshadow.Thanks for this post :)

Fajr | Stylish Thought

I agree with everyone’s sentiments… blogging has helped me become more of myself and with each blog post I reveal a bit more of myself and become the woman I want to be! I think the biggest obstacle to being ourselves is almost always ourselves! Once we get out of our own way we are free to share our light with the world. Great post!


I really loved your post. I think Blogging has helped me connect with people all around the world who like the same things as i do…I have never been shy, but I grew up being insecure…like most people i guess. The blogging community has really helped me build my confidence as well. Thanks for sharing this! Hope someday you visit my blog!

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